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Five Hundred & Ninety Five; of emotions & the way we handle them.

November 14, 2013 /

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Getting my hair done at Salon Vim now, & just decided to do a random post while waiting..

Just yesterday night, I had a random HTHT session with le buddy.
We talked about emotions, how to deal with mistakes made, etc.
If you know me well enough, you will know that I am a sensitive person.
I am usually very sensitive to the surrounding & the people around.
Like.. I will observe others' actions, reactions, expressions etc alot.
& due to that, I find myself affected easily at times.
Are you like that as well?
The good thing is, I usually allow myself to get over it after some thoughts.
& due to the sensitive nature, I do get emotional at times,
So how do i deal with my emotions?

Let's say..  if I made a mistake or I failed my own expectations,
I would think a lot. I would think about what happened, 
how I have affected the others because of my actions,
their impressions, etc.
& yes, I would brood over the matter for some time,
& I would even cry or allow myself to feel really sad for few hours,
after which, I would reflect about what happened, 
& what I should do to avoid the same mistakes 
& to ensure the next time I would do it better.. 
& then, I would get over it & move on completely.
I like to acknowledge my emotions, feel it completely
& then move on from it as soon as possible.

On the other hand, for some of you,
perhaps you would skip the whole process altogether. 
You may think that the few hours spent on the emotions
over what has already happened is a waste of time. 
So for you, when a mistake is made, you would get over it 
almost immediately, & focus straight on how to improve it the next time.
& there are some, who will feel emotional for a long time,
and forgot to move on..
Which category do you belong to?

My point is, it doesn't really matter how you deal with your emotions,
so long as we are all headed towards the same goal ultimately,
i.e Move on, avoid the same mistake & improve for the next time.
We may all take different routes, but does it matter? 
You know your style, you know yourself best! 
So don't be too harsh on yourself because you think you are doing it differently from others,
&, it's also a reminder for you to never force others to handle their emotions 'your wat',
or be too harsh on them because you think they are being 'emotional'
just because others take a slightly longer time than you to get over an issue.
They just need a longer time to recover.
(That being said, there must be a limit of course! 
I guess nobody likes hanging around with people who are negative & emotional all the time.)

I don't know where my post is getting to now but I hope you get my drift! :)
Gotta end now. Ending my post wirh this interesting & meaningful paragraph:

"We have all heard that no two snowflakes are alike. Each snowflake takes the perfect form for the maximum efficiency and effectiveness for its journey. And while the universal force of gravity gives them a shared destination, the expansive space in the air gives each snowflake the opportunity to take their own path. They are on the same journey, but each takes a different path.
Along this gravity-driven journey, some snowflakes collide and damage each other, some collide and join together, some are influenced by wind... there are so many transitions and changes that take place along the journey of the snowflake. But, no matter what the transition, the snowflake always finds itself perfectly shaped for its journey.
I find parallels in nature to be a beautiful reflection of grand orchestration. One of these parallels is of snowflakes and us. We, too, are all headed in the same direction. We are being driven by a universal force to the same destination. We are all individuals taking different journeys and along our journey, we sometimes bump into each other, we cross paths, we become altered... we take different physical forms. But at all times we too are 100% perfectly imperfect. At every given moment we are absolutely perfect for what is required for our journey. I’m not perfect for your journey and you’re not perfect for my journey, but I’m perfect for my journey and you’re perfect for your journey. We’re heading to the same place, we’re taking different routes, but we’re both exactly perfect the way we are..
Think of what understanding this great orchestration could mean for relationships. Imagine interacting with others knowing that they too each share this parallel with the snowflake. Like you, they are headed to the same place and no matter what they may appear like to you, they have taken the perfect form for their journey. How strong our relationships would be if we could see and respect that we are all perfectly imperfect for our journey."
-- Steve Maraboli 

  1. Hey, your post is just in time when I'm feeling down emotionally. I don't know where to start with but recently, I've been stuffing myself with food even though I'm not physically hungry. I'm not sure is it due to stress or other reasons? Do you have any advices?

    1. Dear Janell,

      First of all, I hope you know that you are definitely not alone in this. I'm an emotional eater as well, so I totally understand how you feel! You know what? I think it's perfectly fine to indulge in food when you are down, so long as it makes you feel happier after that. I guess the challenge here is.. the over-eating part. That, you have to keep in control. You have to constantly remind yourself that over-eating may cure your emotions for a short moment, but it doesn't solve the problem. At the end of the day, you need to ask yourself what is the root cause of the emotions, & hence tackle the problem. if you over-eat, you'll feel guilty after which, not only does it not solve your problem, you'll add in more negative emotions! Easier said than done, but you are the only one who has control of yourself :) what you can do is.. the next time if you really overeat for a day, just exercise and burn it off after that and eat healthier for the next meal! exercise is therapeutic and helps me to release negative emotions! you've got to find your own healthier ways of cheering yourself up. jiayou and take care :)