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Three Hundred & Forty Six.

August 26, 2011 / ,


Photo credits to Multifolds Photography

Someone shared this wimme on my public FB acct.
I think it's not the first time that I've seen that.

Without further ado, lemme type it out word by word & share it here:

Dear son, Dear daughter,

The day that you find that I have become very old,
try to have some patience with me and try to understand me.

If I get dirty while eating.. if I have some difficulty dressing.. be patient!
Remember the hours that I spent teaching you these things when you were small.

If I repeat the same things dozens of time, do not interrupt me!  Listen to me!
When you were small, you kept asking me to read you the same story, evening after evening, until you fell asleep. And I did it happily!

If I do not wash myself so often under the shower, do not reprimand and do not tell me that it is a shame.
Remember how many excuses I had to invent to make you take a bath when you were small.

By seeing my ignorance of new technologies, do not laugh at me but give me time to understand.
I taught you so many things.. to eat well.. to dress well.. to behave well.. how to confront the problems of life..

If I sometimes lose memory or am not able to follow a conversation,
give me the necessary time to recollect and if I do not get there,
do not become a nervous and arrogant person, because the most important thing for me..
is to be with you and to be able to speak to you..

If I refuse to eat, do not force me!
I know very well when I am hungry and when I am not hungry.

When my poor legs will not allow me to move as before..
Help me in the same way when I held your hands to teach you take your first steps.

And when one day, I shall say to you that I do not want to live anymore.. that I want to die, do not be angry.. because one day, you will also understand.

Try to understand that at certain age, we do not really live anymore. We simply survive!

One day, you will understand that inspite of all my errors, I always wanted what was best for you.

You do not have to feel sad, unfortunate or incompetent in front of my old age and of my state.
You have to stay near me, try to understand what I live for.

Help me walk, help me to end my life with love and patience.
The only thing that I need from you is a smile and a lot of love.

I love you... my son, my daughter.

Your Dad, Your Mum.

Author: Anonymous
(If anyone know the name of the author, do let me know!)
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I found it so meaningful.

I read one sentence, visualized the situation,
read another sentence, & visualized again.
Then, I started feeling really sad.

The thought of my parents ageing & leaving me one day, is scary.
I dont care how "this is life", "we gta accept it" blah3,
fact is, I cant bear to be separated from them forever.

When I was young, there was a period of time
when I kept imagining how it would be like if my parents were gone from this world,
& I always end up crying myself to sleep.
I was afraid, & I still am.
I still imagine such scenes now, sometimes, just not as often.

I want them to watch me grow, watch me go through all the various stages of life,
til I do well in my career, til I get married, til I give birth to their grandchildren,
til forever..
If I could, I'll want them to stay healthy and be here wimme forever.

But yea, such is life.
We'll never know what may happen the very next day.
All that we can do now, is to cherish them & treasure them,
to spend as much time as wecan with them,
to go home for dinner whenever possible,
to talk to them,
to share with them bits and pieces of our daily lives.
You know, the small parts of our lives that we find mundane/routine-like,
they may want to hear all of them.
They want to know what's happening in our lives,
what we do at work, the places we visited,
the food we tried, the friends we hang out with, the things we do.
Talk to them, chat with them, communicate.

Dont ever find them annoying or think that they are intruding your personal life
when they ask things like,
"how was your day?" "why have you been home so late recently?" etc.
They asked it out of concern, they asked because they care, because they love us.
Believe it or not,
no matter how old we may be, 20, 30 or even 50,
we are always their lil' babies in their hearts.


Show them your concern as well, especially if you have been busy with work/studies.
Take some time off, sit down & chat with them.
Ask them what they had for lunch, ask them about their work,
or even simple silly chats about TV programs, ask them anything.
Talk to them.
Pamper them with treats, it doesnt even have to be an expensive treat.
You can treat them to their favourite hawker food!
Bring them out to shopping malls or the park for a walk.
Watch a TV drama/variety show with them.
Spend quality time with them.
Let them feel loved as well.

When was the last time you hugged your parents?
When was the last time you told them "I love you",
or rather, have you ever said that before?
There is no need to be shy,
they are our parents.
They are the ones who love us the most, in the entire universe.
 
They are the ones who took care of us since day 1,

they fed us, they showered for us, they changed our smelly diapers,
they taught us how to walk, how to eat, how to speak,
they worked so hard so ensure that that they can provide the best for us,
they have been through so many years with us & took care of us all these while,
they had so much patience and love for us.

It's now our turn to take care of them, to support them,
to provide for them and most importantly,
to shower them with all the love.

:)

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